What does gender identity mean to me?
When a trans or non-binary person comes into your life, it can be helpful to deal with your own thoughts, ideas, and beliefs about gender and gender identity. Emotional defensiveness, a general lack of understanding, and the accompanying devaluation of another person’s identity very often are connected to how we ourselves understand and perceive gender categories.
It is not your child's job to provide answers to very intimate questions related to your own questions about gender. There is a lot of value in working some of this out with yourself, with your partner, with professionals, and/ or with counselling services. There is no shame in seeking support!